It is endlessly incredible to me the degree to which this man always has to go and add something extra. To anyone else — anyone else on earth — making a giant teddy bear sculpture out of chocolate is already a hugely ambitious task. Making it with as realistic as he does even more so.
And then. And THEN!
This madman decides that the teddy bear should also have a zipper with stuffing spilling out. The audacity. It’s so extra. I love it.
The more I think of myself as just another animal, the better I feel about my body. Yup I have breasts, I’m a sexually mature female human. A caribou does not feel bad that her antlers have grown in. I eat, I am an animal. No other animal on Earth feels shame at the thought of eating besides humans. A mouse does not worry if her face is asymmetrical, a lizard does not attempt to take up less space, a boar does not think about her body hair. Dysphoria can only ever exist within the confines of a human society. Who made you feel so bad you felt the need to self implode? A person? A collective? There’s nothing noble or profound about self destruction, even single celled organisms want to live.
So I found out a few months ago that wanting to ‘not exist’ or wishing you could ‘just sleep forever’ is also considered suicidal (specifically suicidal idealization). It shocked me cause I used to think that way when I was younger but had previously thought that being suicidal meant explicitly wanting to die.. but it actually involves wanting to not live too.
I think its an important thing to note cause it might allow someone to realize the severity of their condition earlier.
This was the funniest thing to me. Because I was talking to a counselor, and they were like “Are you suicidal?”
“No not really. But sometimes I don’t want to exist though”
“You do know that’s suicidal ideation?”
“…what?”
I wish I kind of knew before. Like honestly, we know so little about mental health.
Same goes for wanting to run away, I had this urge for the longest time, to just leave, I thought it was because I was looking for thrill or something but after a few dozen times of googling “why do I want to run away so badly?” And “is it normal to want to run away?” I found out that that’s also a symptom of depression and suicidal idealization, obviously not as strong but definetly also a part that’s not talked about a lot
Hey, this goes for the “I just wish time would stop for a while.” too.
A rare form, but those who desire the entire world enter a stasis-like state so they can have the time and escape they need is still a part of the desire to escape at any cost.
There are many forms of suicidal idealization, not all involve active, or even passive suicide.
If you spend a lot of time thinking of ways to escape, possible or impossible, consider speaking to a good therapist whom you connect with.
Or maybe… hear me out… it’s not an internal defect, and it’s just a realistic repulsion to the capitalistic demands of working just to scrape by until you die.
Maybe we weren’t meant to live this way, and wanting to run away or actually have time for yourself is a symptom of a parasitic system and not a personal shortcoming.
all men who go to strip clubs are supporting human trafficking. all men who go to brothels are supporting human trafficking. all men who buy sex are supporting human trafficking. all men who watch porn are supporting human trafficking. it does not matter if they say they are against human trafficking, when it is their money funding it, when they are the ones creating the demand, without them sex trafficking would not exist. all men who support trafficking in any way shape or form need to be held responsible for their violent misogyny that is getting millions of women raped, enslaved and killed.
hei remember when posts like this used to get 15k notes but now it’s considered sWeRf RheToriC
It’s almost like women weren’t born perfect maids, cooks or mothers and instead, were trained to perform such tasks. It’s misleading and self-centered to assume that “every other woman” - except for her - naturally likes taking care of people, their appointments and a house. They’re not the only women with individual will, neither are they “lazy husbands” or “deadbeat dads” trapped in a woman’s body because it suggests that there is something inherently wrong with their aversion toward traditionally female work and that all women should want to do it and enjoy themselves. On the flipside, that also means a man should have none of the given responsibilities simply because he is male. How is the conclusion to such a thought “I must not be woman-ing right” instead of understanding that being female does not come with an installed manual of a housewife? They’re all running one way and it’s not that of critical thinking.
The really crazy thing to me is that they’ll leave these comments and see them get 3k+ likes apiece, and still not think: huh, maybe this is a normal feeling that normal women experience 🤔
“I’m not like other girls, just like these hundreds of thousands of women who feel the exact same way”
when i was a kid i used to respond to the “glass half full/half empty” question by asking how the liquid in the glass got there in the first place. nobody ever gave me a chance to explain my reasoning so i’m doing it now
if you have a glass and it has some liquid in it, up to the halfway line, whether it is empty or full depends on what happened before the question was asked. if you started with a full glass and poured half out until only half remained, the glass is half empty, because if you continued pouring it would be fully empty. however, if you started with an empty glass and poured liquid from another container into the glass up to the halfway line, the glass is half full because if you continued pouring it would be all the way full. logical, no?
i was 13 years old when somebody finally told me it was supposed to be some kind of optimism/pessimism thing. i always thought it was a riddle that nobody let me solve
Okay but that actually goes really well with the metaphor. How did you get to where you are right now? Have things gotten better or worse? Does it seem like the trend is continuing?
Nobody’s really an optimist or pessimist all the time, your outlook depends on the situation and how you arrived there.
everyone hates orange until they actually see her in context. “oh it’s such an ugly color, too bright!” look at sunsets and autumn, look at campfires and deserts. she’s the most beautiful and special part of the scene. now apologize.
